Thursday, June 25, 2009

Tired of self-expectations

We all have a tendency to hold on to things that destroy us and cause us to stay unhealthy. As a result, the heaviness of our burdens prevents us from enjoying life. We get caught up in negativity and depression. I have felt it before. The world becomes dark and big to the point that we perceive most things as black and white.
Letting go of our hurts and disappointments and learning to forgive ourselves and others are conscious acts. Forgiving ourselves is not a feeling. It is a choice. We must choose to forgive even if it means swallowing our own pride. Some people hold on to hurts and spend their whole lives being unhappy and miserable. Unfortunately, everyone who touches shoulders with such people senses and absorbs the negative reactions and unhappiness. Who wants to be around someone who is always unhappy, always negative, always complaining?!?
Most of the time...
The things we don't want to see
,are the things you have to see.

Truth is , all of us get something-some payoff- when we hold on to things that are unhealthy. Blind loyalty is plain foolishness. Do the math and get the average. You can never be loyal to something or someone which causes you pain. It's contrary to life, to survival. The unfortunate part is that while we hold on to these things, meanwhile, life keeps passing us buy, and we miss healthy moments - moments filled with fun and laughter, true joy. We get "stuck" in pain which suffocates and strangles us, and we find ourselves not opting for life. And worse, we normally hide it deep within, wearing masks of "pseudo-happiness", certainty and strength.

I need to remember that human beings trip and fall, sometimes say things they don't mean, and make mistakes. Those are not failures. They are ruts and grooves that we all need to grow into awareness of. Human beings are not perfect. And that's all i am, all we are - a human being. So why do I expect more of myself than of others? It's just crazy, don't you think? Chilax! Smile. =)

28 comments:

ACRYLIQUE said...

Kaya na-discover ang trial ang error. pwedeng sumubok, magkamali, matuto, magbago. :)

dylan dimaubusan said...

This is one reason why i love this blog. Yours is moving. Mind opener. You can rant about anything and let others see the whole scene.

Saan ba banda yan, pwede sumama? ^_^

Amorgatory said...

hmmm sana lang madali lang, minsan kasi mahirap gawin, but then cguro ganyan lang sa buhayness try lang nang try..ohh yeah!!

jodi said...

sabi nga nila, try and try until you succed..good luck oracle

HARI NG SABLAY said...

tama nga naman.buhay nga naman hay...

basta aja lang ng aja!hehe

MarcoPaolo said...

tsk tsk tsk buhay nga naman...

YanaH said...

tinamaan ako ng sobra-sobra sa ntry mo... as in bulls eye... ahihihihihi tulad ng sinabi ni amor, minsan kase mahirap talaga.. lalo kugn wala kang taong makapitan... pero we gotta deal with it in order to survive..

gillboard said...

may natutunan ako na bago.. hehehe... susundin ko yang sinabi mo.. baka gumaan ang loob ko lalo... salamat

A-Z-E-L said...

"Some people hold on to hurts and spend their whole lives being unhappy and miserable."

hindi ko alam kung bakit may ganong tao. they can be happy afterall.. bakit ipinapako nila ang sarili nila sa past...

i live a happy day... each day... para kung mawala ako bukas.. nawala akong nakangiti at masaya. walang panghihinayang...

ORACLE said...

@ACRYLIQUE

Na discover pala iyon parekoy. Ahihihi. Tama! Part talaga yan ng learning process... :)

@Dylan

Wala akong masabi. LIKEWISE. :)
Dyan lang sa tabi tabi sa gilid ng planet earth...

ORACLE said...

@Amor

Eh ganun talaga mare. mahirap sa simula pero kung nakayanan mo ang sakit tuloy tuloy na. Parang you know.... ahihihi :)

@Jodi

Pwede... pero sometimes you have to change the way to try. Alangan naman na try ka ng try tapos ganun din naman ginagawa mo dba? Hello telepone? Nyerks. :)

ORACLE said...

@HARI NG SABLAY

yeah boy! Aja lang... :)

@Marco

sabi na may problema ka parekoy eh. Ano ba yun ha? lolz. Ok lang yan, kasama lahat yan sa isang makulay na buhay... :)

ORACLE said...

@Yanah

whew! kinabahan naman ako dun sa sobra sobra. At least buhay pa tayo jan diba? lolz. Lagi tayo may kakapitan. Nandyan ang Diyos mare. Siya ang pinaka matibay na pwede nating lahat kapitan... :)

@Gillboard

cge pare. Kantahan kita ng "ang gaan, gaan ng feeling" Naks. Don't try, decide to let go. Life is beautiful, it's waiting for you... :)

@AZEL

Korek! Kaya nga bilib ako sayo eh. Well, cguro ganun talaga, bawat isa may kanya kanyang kwento, at desisyon nila kung paano ito isusulat... :)

SEAQUEST said...

MAy kanya-kanya dahilan ang bawat indibidwal kung anuan ang gusto nilang piliin sa buhay even if it is living from the past, now, or for tommorrow, ang mahalaga lahat sa bawat pinipili natin dahildun tayo masaya...

Rafé said...

good words..and thanks for the comment.

Sometimes, I forget to put something positive on my posts, but your post and my post aren't too far different.

Dhianz said...

luv 'ur entry bro Oracle.. teka... puwede bah kuya Oracle na lang? feeling koh naman mas matanda kah saken eh... parang mas maganda pakinggan eh... wehe.. hmmmm... yeah... kaya nga... we should always learn to forgive... don't be so hard on ourselves... and lahat tayo we make mistakes... do it to others as well.. learn to forgive others like how God forgives us w/ every little mistake dat we do... amazing part is even d' mistake that we haven't make are always forgiven as long u have God in our hearts... take care lagi kuya Oracle.. Godbless! -di

Dhianz said...

amazing part is even d' mistake that we haven't make are always forgiven as long u have God in our hearts...---> este are already forgiven... 'cause of Jesus Christ =)... simple lang naman.... juz accept Him in our hearts... inexplain pa daw eh noh... naks... feeling pastora... eniweiz... if u ever feelin' down sometimes.. juz look up... Godbless! -di

dylan dimaubusan said...

Dyan sa tabi-tabi. Napaka-safe ng sagot noh... Nag-aaya kang lumangoy di ba?..

RJ said...

Talagang sanay ka sa mga ganitong usapin. Maganda, lahat ng tao makaka-relate.

ORACLE said...

@SEAQUEST

"MAy kanya-kanya dahilan ang bawat indibidwal kung anuan ang gusto nilang piliin sa buhay even if it is living from the past, now, or for tommorrow, ang mahalaga lahat sa bawat pinipili natin dahildun tayo masaya..."

Uy! Salamat sa pagdaan. I believe that is true. PERO, ayan, may pero ako, hehehe. Huwag malin lang sa word na "masaya" coz it's a very transient word. Mag dagdag tayo ng isang word... "tingin".

...pinipili natin dahil dun tayo tingin natin masaya.... :)

ORACLE said...

@Rafe

Yeah i know. Thanks! Tc! :)

@Dhianz

Uy sis Dhianz! musta ka na! tagal mo ata nag pahinga. namiss kta ha! Are you ok? Amen to that! I'm not really feeling down, i'm quite happy actually, pero syempre sa ating lahat there are certain things which will make us more happier. And that my friend makes life all the more exciting!... :)

ORACLE said...

@Dylan

Eh kasi baka maraming sumama. Maganda kung tayong dalawa lang. Mas safe. Ahihihihi! Dba? I mean baka maraming sumama na hindi swimmer, hirap naman nun kung sabay sabay malunod.lolz! Have a great weekend! Stay sane! :)

ORACLE said...

@Doc RJ

Salamat doc! Lahat naman tayo may buhay, lahat tayo dapat nakakarelate sa isa't isa... Ingat! :)

dylan dimaubusan said...

Ahaha! Anlabo. lolz
Oo nman, I am perfectly insane.

dylan dimaubusan said...

Nyak! I mean, in sane. ^__^

Dhianz said...

nag-emote lang saglit... actually intro lang 'un.. may part two pah.. ahehe... teka..hmmnnzz... may naamoy akoh ditoh ahh... hmmmm.... explain Sis dylan and Kuya Oracle.... ahehe... ingatz kayong dalawa... may mga langgam na ditoh oh.... ahehe... ingatz! Godbless! -di

ORACLE said...

@Dylan

Linaw kaya nun! kaw tlaga! Freudian Slip? Tsk! I guess you need to be more insane paminsan minsan. Bangag ka nanaman Dylan. Na sobrahan kananaman sa kape... :)

ORACLE said...

@Dhianz

uuuuuyyy.... kaw ha! :)