We all have a tendency to hold on to things that destroy us and cause us to stay unhealthy. As a result, the heaviness of our burdens prevents us from enjoying life. We get caught up in negativity and depression. I have felt it before. The world becomes dark and big to the point that we perceive most things as black and white.
Letting go of our hurts and disappointments and learning to forgive ourselves and others are conscious acts. Forgiving ourselves is not a feeling. It is a choice. We must choose to forgive even if it means swallowing our own pride. Some people hold on to hurts and spend their whole lives being unhappy and miserable. Unfortunately, everyone who touches shoulders with such people senses and absorbs the negative reactions and unhappiness. Who wants to be around someone who is always unhappy, always negative, always complaining?!?
Most of the time... The things we don't want to see,are the things you have to see.
Truth is , all of us get something-some payoff- when we hold on to things that are unhealthy. Blind loyalty is plain foolishness. Do the math and get the average. You can never be loyal to something or someone which causes you pain. It's contrary to life, to survival. The unfortunate part is that while we hold on to these things, meanwhile, life keeps passing us buy, and we miss healthy moments - moments filled with fun and laughter, true joy. We get "stuck" in pain which suffocates and strangles us, and we find ourselves not opting for life. And worse, we normally hide it deep within, wearing masks of "pseudo-happiness", certainty and strength.
I need to remember that human beings trip and fall, sometimes say things they don't mean, and make mistakes. Those are not failures. They are ruts and grooves that we all need to grow into awareness of. Human beings are not perfect. And that's all i am, all we are - a human being. So why do I expect more of myself than of others? It's just crazy, don't you think? Chilax! Smile. =)
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